Order

Virtue 3: Order

Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
Order can be a command, direction or instruction.

Order can be the disposition of things following one another in space or time, in succession or sequence. The opposite of this would be chaos and disorganization.

To relieve ourselves of chaos and disorder we must keep things simple and organized. In turn we will live a fuller life. All things should have their place. Physical things such as your keys should hang by the door on a hook.

Emotional things, such as reactions to anger, hurt and pain, also have a place and time. Per the second virtue we have learnt this to avoid trifling conversation, or simply not to speak at all.

We need to make choices on the things we can control. This makes things easier and less resistant to our efforts. If we make the choices and changes that may come with it in the present moment, you will restore balance in your life. Find the time and the place for all things.

Ben Franklins Virtue of Silence

The Virtue of Silence

Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself.

 Avoid trifling Conversation

Know the appropriate time and place, including the words to speak.  Words once spoken cannot be taken back. Therefore select your words wisely.

Also select your words for the time, place and space for where you are.

Sometimes saying nothing at all speaks louder than any words. Sometimes people need a hug, rather than some coddling words.

Don’t attack people with your words, it is easy to blow up and rant and explode on someone in frustration or anger.

Learn to be quiet.

Practice Silence.

See the peace that can come over you.

Father Lead Me....

How different would many womens lives be if this advice was heard and obeyed.
It takes an obedient heart to fullfill a legacy.

Thank you Sanctus Real


I look around and see my wonderful life
Almost perfect from the outside
In picture frames, I see my beautiful wife
Always smiling, but on the inside

Oh, I can hear her saying

Lead me with strong hands
Stand up when I can't
Don't leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, but what about us?

Show me you're willing to fight
That I'm still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone

I see their faces, look in their innocent eyes
They're just children from the outside
I'm working hard, I tell myself they'll be fine
They're independent, but on the inside

Oh, I can hear them saying
Lead me with strong hands
Stand up when I can't
Don't leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, what about us?

Show me you're willing to fight
That I'm still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone

So Father, give me the strength
To be everything I'm called to be
Oh Father, show me the way
To lead them

Won't You lead me?

To lead them with strong hands
To stand up when they can't
Don't want to leave them hungry for love
Chasing things that I could give up

I'll show them I'm willing to fight
And give them the best of my life
So we can call this our home
Lead me 'cause I can't do this alone

Father, lead me 'cause I can't do this alone

Lyrics and Song: Sanctus Real

Attitudes that Affect Us

I prayed distinctly for wisdom. I wanted God to show me some reasons why the men in my life have hurt me as they have. Now no one is perfect, and I have made many mistakes, and contribute to the relations to guide them and nurture them.  Perhaps those men are hurting as much if not MORE than me.

This story is about how I received the wisdom. It is Sunday and I have just restarted attending a church I attended years ago! I walk to church and it is cold and snowy out, but the sun is shining. The walk is approximately a half hour one way, and I enjoy that time to engage in prayer and meditation. I was tired this morning and as I attend alone, motivation was to stay cuddled in my warm bed. BUT I got up and went.

The wisdom was delivered to me. In looking at the bible and the influence of the men of history can show you the attitudes we posses that lead us to make mistakes. Our attitudes drive us and we are driven by fear, anger, frustration, materialism, and selfishness. Even deeper the message I received was so much more than this, Attitudes that specifically drive us to make some fatal errors are

Lust

Sense of Entitlement

Insensitivity

Evil

Cunning

Saving Face over Maintaining Integrity of your Authentic Self

All of these traits I have seen VIVIDLY in the last two years, they were probably there in these men prior to, however they surfaced when I wanted resolve and reconciliation and planning how that can happen.

These things may not have a match.

 

 

We can try and help those that need to see more clearly and change their attitude, but we cannot change them. We can enlighten them, guide them, in the end it is up to them to change, some do not want to, and that is a shame. Ironic these people feel shame and then continue to perpetuate it not even knowing what a shame it is.

My wish would be we all recognise we are good people, we make mistakes and we make poor decisions.

It is time to make the choice to be the authentic you, that glowing warm person deep in your heart. When you are it feels fabulous, and I can only pray and meditate that it brings people of the same authenticity to me.

 

Love one another, and pray for warmth in your enemies heart.

 

- Jo

New Year 2013 - Resolutions

What perfect timing to make some resolutions. I resolved to pot weekly on my blog, and well you see where that ended up. So now is the time....

I resolve...
...to spend more time with my family.
...to see Walt Disney World decorated for Christmas (November 2013) 
...to increase my daily gratitude.
...to inhale deeply before reacting.
...to use the lessons I have learnt from my past mistake, and feel like I actually learnt something.
...to continue to build my relationship with God, and carry out my designed purpose.

 (the Disney resolution is a more measurable goal, and one that will be more difficult to achieve as I venture on without a life partner)

With this you will see, more twitter tweets, retweets, facebook posts, blog posts. In fact I think I should blog more than tweet. Blogging gives a sense of more INFINITE wisdom, perhaps because I am allowed more characters, but then wouldn't you think less characters to explain yourself is more wise? hmmmm......

I should probably resolve to watch less reality TV, but that's not going to happen. As much as I am disappointed in the lack of progress of reality TV "game shows", they still suck me in season after season, and shamefully the Canadian versions were even more lacking, according to my 13 year old daughter that is due to Canadians being too nice.  :)

So Welcome to my 2013 !

Hope we can work together to progress and actually obtain a New Year Resolution.

Jo